"When you say you're 'working on' yourself, what do you mean? Because if it's continuing the same routine that you've had for years in hope that you'll find what you're looking for within then you're doing it all wrong. If you're working on yourself then truly work on yourself. Start a journal. Begin saying 'no' to things you don't want to do and make more time for things that you do. And if you don't know what you want, then do a brainstorm. Start cooking fresh meals and make effort to grab a coffee with your friend, and call your mother to have that difficult conversation that you've been putting off for so long. Do some trauma work. Focus on ways to ease your anxiety. Go on walks. Listen to health and positivity podcasts. Watch comedy skits. Read self-help books and romance novels, or thriller, or none at all if books aren't your thing. But the point is - be in motion. It's not enough to continue the same routine that you've had for the last few years. Because working on yourself requires effort. It requires change. It requires you to step out of your comfort zone and try new things. It requires you to talk about the difficult stuff, the scary stuff, the painful and heartbreaking stuff. Because if you want to grow then you truly need to work on yourself and for that you need to do something, anything, rather than nothing at all.